Possessiveness simply means that we are fighting with our own thoughts. We are trying to confine our own mental space by putting a perimeter around ourselves. But the world is place of interconnections and if you want to truly connect with others, you have to drop this idea of possessiveness. Then only do you become broader in your scope. The primary problem with personal relationships and turmoil in personal relationships is idea of possessiveness. It is the one poison which destroys relationships. At work on the other hand, people are possessive about their position, their power. And that way they do not really move to words their fuller potential. We may come across certain people (or even ourselves) who seem extremely deprived of love and affection, although they try very hard to gain acceptance from family or friends. They care for everyone but are often left uncared for. Sometimes it is not just about being ignored, but they even attract the opposite quality of energies like anger, hatred, rejection, ridicule, or disapproval. This happens when we suffer a severe lack of self love or low self-esteem. By radiating such vibrations, we invite or attract lack of love and respect from other people too, because we get the same energy as we give. Whether it is love, peace, or happiness, if we cannot give it to ourselves, nobody else can give it to us. It all starts from us and goes inside-out. The same happens when someone works very hard for success but repeatedly attracts failure. This is also directly related to quality of our subtle energy. Upon setting a goal, we need to journey towards it without creating a trace of negativity like fear out doubt. We feel more often due to fear of failure, rather than lacking what it takes to succeed. Even if we fail at particular junction, we need to train the mind to progress positively towards the goal. When our vibrations are positive, more possibilities open up. With meditation and regular spiritual studies, we need to increase the power to accept this self. What people think about us is not important. What we think about us means every thing